Evite or NOvite?

How do you all feel about receiving invitations?  Do you receive them every way except the traditional card in the mail or even better, the personal, face to face invite?   I call an evite a NOvite.  I send and receive so many through Evite, FB invites, tweetup, meetup and the sort that it is almost impossible to keep them straight and I would be lucky to get them on my daily calendar.  I tend to feel, if it is important, it will come back to me as a reminder.  The real impact, what would get me to the event, would be the hostess asking me in writing, face to face or over the phone.  We all want to feel important, needed and not just a number or email address.  With my business I pull friends together for a fabulous trunk show experience so I do send these little novites out as I'm sure it must help for save the dates or reminders.  What I have found, is that the invitees mean no when they respond yes, or maybe, always means no and sometimes a no is a yes.  Of course, many do not respond at all, leaving one to assume spam filters or the unlikely "they haven't responded so they must not want to come to my oh so perfectly planned event".    That is certainly not how they are feeling, if they haven't responded you should absolutely call them and let them know you noticed they must not have received the invite.  They should know you would be honored for them to attend even if it is last minute.  Guess what?  They are more likely to have a direct "yes" or "no" as they will be confident in their plans.  If they said "yes" or "maybe" to the NOvite, a quick call will go a long way.  Let your friends know you would enjoy spending some girl time with them.  Even better, take the time to put invites on paper, hand address and mail (snail mail) or drop off personally.  That will go a lot further in value and appreciation.  Spend a little time upfront so you do not have to waist time later.  You can keep doing the evites and the sort, they have a special place and you'll appreciate the reminder that they send.  Either way, take the time to get together with those that are important to you and those that you would like to get to know better.